Queer Relationship Counseling in Boston
Finding Connection in Queerness
Relationships are hard, and queer couples face unique relational stressors and social pressures that many clinicians don’t fully understand. At Kinsey & Associates, we offer queer couples therapy that is affirming, relational, and grounded in a deep respect for your lived experience. We’re a queer therapist team in Boston offering LGBTQ+ couples counseling, relationship therapy, and support for diverse relationship structures.
We work with lesbian, gay, nonbinary, and other LGBTQ+ couples and relationships who want help understanding one another more clearly, repairing trust, and building relationships that feel honest, connected, and sustainable.
What Brings Queer Couples to Therapy
Queer couples come to therapy for many of the same reasons any couple does and also for reasons shaped by identity, culture, and history.
Queer couples often feel alone, not because they are disconnected from each other, but because they lack the social supports of family and friends who truly believe in their relationship. Over time, that isolation can quietly strain even strong relationships.
Common concerns include:
Communication that feels tense, circular, or emotionally unsafe
Differences in desire, intimacy, or sexual connection
Conflict around gender roles, power, or emotional labor
Trust ruptures, infidelity, or secrecy
Navigating coming out, family rejection, or lack of support
Stress related to discrimination, minority stress, or internalized shame
Questions about commitment, non-monogamy, or relationship structure
In our experience, many queer couples struggle less because of incompatibility and more because their relationship developed without the external reinforcement that helps most couples regulate conflict and feel secure.
As a result, many queer couples are deeply bonded and also exhausted. LGBTQ+ couples counseling in Boston can offer a place to slow down, name what’s happening beneath the surface, and reconnect with why you chose each other in the first place.
Our Approach to Queer Couples Therapy
Our work is relational, trauma-informed, and explicitly affirming. We don’t treat queerness as an “issue” to work around; it’s part of the context we understand and respect.
Many queer couples find that their current struggles are shaped not only by what is happening between them now, but by earlier relational experiences that taught them to stay guarded, self-reliant, or vigilant. Developmental trauma (such as growing up without consistent emotional safety, validation, or support for one’s identity) can quietly influence how partners attach, communicate, and respond to conflict. In queer relationship therapy, we help couples understand how these early experiences show up in the present, not to pathologize them, but to create more safety, flexibility, and choice in the relationship.
We also integrate understanding of minority stress, the extra burden faced by queer people from societal discrimination and invisibility, into how we support couple dynamics. Therapy can become one of the first places where the relationship itself is taken seriously and supported. Queer relationships are unique, but they are not frighteningly foreign. We understand the challenges you face, and we know how to help.
We draw from emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), sex therapy, and humanistic and psychodynamic traditions. In practice, that means we help couples:
Identify recurring emotional patterns that keep you stuck
Understand how past experiences shape present reactions
Build emotional safety so difficult conversations feel possible
Repair injuries and rebuild trust after rupture
Develop intimacy that feels mutual, chosen, and alive
We also work openly with couples navigating non-monogamy, consensual non-monogamy (ENM), and other relationship structures, offering a space to clarify agreements, address jealousy or insecurity, and strengthen trust.
Our work with queer relationships is grounded in a shared clinical framework shaped by Dr. Kinsey’s 15+ years of focused experience working with queer couples and individuals. This approach informs how our entire team understands intimacy, attachment, and relational stress.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Queer Relationship Counseling
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Queer relationship counseling is therapy designed for LGBTQ+ couples and partners that understands how identity, culture, and lived experience shape intimacy and conflict. In our work, we focus on communication, emotional connection, trust, and the relational patterns that develop over time, while also accounting for minority stress, family rejection, and social isolation that often affect queer relationships.
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Many queer adults grew up without consistent emotional safety, validation, or models of healthy relationships. Developmental trauma, such as chronic invalidation, secrecy, rejection, or the need to hide parts of oneself, can shape how partners relate, argue, and attach to one another. In queer relationship therapy, we pay close attention to how early relational wounds show up in present-day dynamics, especially around trust, closeness, conflict, and fear of abandonment.
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Yes. Developmental trauma is not a reflection of weakness or pathology. For many queer people, it is a reasonable response to growing up in environments that did not fully support or protect their identity. These experiences can quietly influence adult relationships, even when partners are loving, committed, and emotionally intelligent.
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Our approach is relational and trauma-informed. Rather than focusing on blame or diagnosis, we help couples understand how past experiences shape present reactions. We work to increase emotional safety, slow down reactive cycles, and support partners in responding to one another with greater clarity and compassion. This often includes integrating emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), psychodynamic insight, and sex therapy.
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Yes. We work with queer couples and partners in monogamous and consensual non-monogamous (ENM) relationships. Therapy may focus on communication, boundaries, trust, jealousy, desire, or navigating differences in needs and expectations, always within an affirming and non-judgmental framework.
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We provide queer relationship counseling in Boston and offer telehealth sessions throughout Massachusetts, depending on availability. During a consultation, we’ll help you determine whether in-person or virtual therapy is the best fit for your situation.
Our queer relationship approach is a shared clinical orientation across the practice, shaped by years of focused work with LGBTQ+ couples and refined through ongoing training and collaboration.
Working With a Therapist Who Gets It
Many queer couples hesitate to start therapy because they don’t want to educate their therapist or worry they’ll be misunderstood.
At Kinsey & Associates, queer couples work with clinicians who bring both professional training and lived experience into the room. Our therapists understand how gender, sexuality, power, and marginalization shape relationships, not just in theory, but in real life.
Lucy Morgan specializes in queer couples counseling and relational work with LGBTQ+ adults. Dr. Lee Kinsey specializes in integrating sex therapy, emotionally focused therapy (EFT), and queer relational trauma. Both therapists bring lived experience, advanced training, and many years of clinical experience to queer relationship therapy in Boston.
You deserve a space where your relationship doesn’t need translation.
Queer Couples Therapy in Boston
Kinsey & Associates is a group counseling practice in Boston specializing in relationship and sex therapy. Queer couples at our practice may work with Lucy, Lee, or another member of our team, all of whom bring both clinical training and lived experience to their work.
We provide queer couples counseling in Boston, Back Bay, Cambridge, Brookline, Somerville, and surrounding communities. We offer both in-person and telehealth sessions, depending on availability. We are listed in local LGBTQ+ therapist directories and known in the Boston community for queer-affirming relational care.
If you’re looking for queer couples therapy in Boston, we invite you to reach out for a consultation. We’ll help you think about whether working together feels like the right fit.
Schedule your next queer relationship therapy appointment in Boston
Contact us to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation. We enjoy speaking with every couple before they schedule to ensure we are the right fit to meet their needs and to answer whatever questions they might have.