Boston Couples Therapy and Relationship Counseling

Dr. Kinsey is a certified sex therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), one of the oldest, largest, and most rigorous bodies that promotes the practice of sex therapy. He is also trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and a traditional systems theory of relationship counseling called structural family therapy - an approach that encourages therapist and couple to see the problem within their dynamic rather than within any particular individual. 

For decades, sex and couples therapists have developed, practiced, and honed many different techniques. Sex therapists, informed by the work of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, were some of the original motivators for couples change through experiential learning. Masters and Johnson found that couples who practiced basic sex therapy interventions found relief relatively quickly. And modern sex therapists have built on their legacy to create multiple avenues for the integration of sex therapy and relationship counseling experiences.

Combining many different approaches and modalities is a hallmark of our work. However, all of our tools are united by a basic philosophy of how couples change - through healing experiences of connection. Particularly for couples in person in Boston, the therapy room becomes a sort of dance floor wherein we help couples try out some new steps. We don’t just talk about how to interact differently; we practice interacting in new, powerful ways. The room is a sandpit for those who need a soft place to try something different without fears of shame, ridicule, or harm done to the players participating. If needed, we can clear the “sand” and try again. 

For couples who need Telehealth, these experiences will often take place at home. But we still might ask partners to hold hands, look at each other when expressing thoughts or emotions, breathe together, or stand up and shake out their frozen trauma responses. Although not the same as in-person, online therapy can be effective with some tweaking to traditional methods. 

Despite our training and preparedness, we also believe in the effectiveness of couples therapy. After over 15 years of experience in couples counseling, we can honestly say, “It works.” Our work has changed how we operate in our personal lives. We have seen couples come back from the worst imaginable hurts to find healing, restoration, and new and better connection. 

We have had the distinct honor of working with people who come from all over the world. We have worked with people from Iran, Vietnam, China, India, Germany, Russia, Mexico, and Brazil, to name a few. We have worked with Black, Indigenous, Asian, and Latine Americans. We have worked with gay, lesbian, polyamorous, Kink/BDSM, sex workers, bisexual as well as heterosexual relationships. We have worked with Christian, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, atheist, and agnostic clients. Regardless of your background and experience, we are ready to work with you, and we are committed to creating an open, welcoming, affirmative, and celebratory space for who you are and what you bring.