“I think I’m addicted to porn.” It’s one of the most emotionally charged statements therapists hear from men seeking help. But what if the addiction label doesn’t tell the full story? In this thoughtful article, Garrett Beaman, LMHC explores pornography use, shame, and Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB).

For many who endure a sexless relationship, sex is harder than the alternative. It’s not an oasis of connection, an escape from the pressures of life, an intimate getaway for those precious 30 minutes.

I’ve heard it a million times, if I’ve heard it once. “Erectile dysfunction is ruining our sex life.” My response is always, “No, it isn’t.”